Advice
Long Distance Relationships (Won't) Kill You
July 27, 2017
Let's be real, summer is the hardest season for friendship.
It takes so much work to maintain a long-distance friendship during the hectic summer months. Sarah and I have been finding it difficult to keep up with each other while I'm on a four month contract in New Jersey and she is traveling/working at her cool adulting job. Just in case you and your best are struggling like us, I've made a list of things to do that will guarantee you are up to date on all that best friend info.
Stream of Consciousness Texts
Sarah and I keep our texts going as much as we can. Even if it's just an Emma Roberts meme or a "everyone here is stupid, why are you not here?!?!?" text, we make sure to keep each other in the loop constantly.
Facetime Dates
Texting is great, but we all know that the real catch-up happens virtual face to virtual face. Try to have some best friend time at least once a week (this is not always possible, believe me). Make an effort. Set a time. Make some tea (or if you're me, pour some wine) and chat.
Book Club
I bought Sarah and I the same book for her birthday so that we would have something special to bond over. I completely recommend this fun way to stay connected, and not just because it's a major Cher and Tai moment (Authors note: neither of us will own up to being a Tai, so we are both Cher.).
Plan a Besties Trip
Getting through a rough patch of long hours and hard work can be so much easier if you have something to look forward to. Right now, Sarah and I are planning a day to meet up at the Food and Wine Festival this Fall in Disney, and knowing that I have that trip to look forward to makes my days without seeing my best somewhat bearable.
So whether you're separated by a few states or an entire ocean, hopefully some of these ideas will help to cure some of that separation anxiety you experience when everyone is being stupid and you just want your best friend (which is always).
Plan a Besties Trip
Getting through a rough patch of long hours and hard work can be so much easier if you have something to look forward to. Right now, Sarah and I are planning a day to meet up at the Food and Wine Festival this Fall in Disney, and knowing that I have that trip to look forward to makes my days without seeing my best somewhat bearable.
So whether you're separated by a few states or an entire ocean, hopefully some of these ideas will help to cure some of that separation anxiety you experience when everyone is being stupid and you just want your best friend (which is always).
Let's Choose Love
November 10, 2016
Well one thing is for sure, within the past few days America has been through the wringer. I struggled for a long time on whether or not we should write something about all this political chaos, but finally decided that this blog promised to give y’all stories about our lives and struggles, and this is definitely one of them.
Let me start off by saying that I am not here to pick apart
either candidate, I am here to share a different side of the story, the one
that happens after all the votes have been counted, the one that happens
between friends and family. The hate between parties right now is so palpable;
I feel it when I glance at my social media, walk down Fifth Avenue, or even when
I’m shopping at Target. Right now I feel like America is a child of divorce
being forced to choose whether we want to live with mom or dad. What worries me
is that these sour feelings aren’t limited to strangers on the street, they
follow us home; this week I have witnessed this negativity break family and
friends apart. Luckily, my family and I were blessed with a similar mindset,
and to us it was clear which candidate should lead us into the future. All was
fine on the home front, but in New York, a really good friend and I are in a
world divided, and through all of the negativity I have struggled to accurately voice my
feelings on the situation.
Let me start with what I do know about my friend. My
friend is caring, hilarious, loyal, faithful, generous, loving, honorable, passionate,
and has been one of the most important people in my life for the past six
years. We have had disagreements before and I’m sure we will disagree again;
however, this difference in opinion seemed too large to overlook.
So what do we do when we don’t see eye-to-eye with a loved
one? Y’ALL, WE TALK ABOUT IT. I appreciate people speaking out for what they
believe in. I am obsessed with the fact that this amazing country allows us to
speak our minds, but if we are not coming from a place of love and understanding,
then what are we aiming to accomplish? Instead of jumping to conclusions, my
best and I sat down and talked about what we felt strongly about, and most
importantly about how we will not let this affect our friendship. We were able
to hear and respect the other’s opinions, and we came from a place of understanding
and love.
So here is what I have decided to do now that the election
is over: spread love. Remember that when tragedy strikes, we don’t run to the
President asking for hugs and support, we run to our family and friends.
Everyone is struggling and everyone is trying to make it through life, and hateful
words and actions from either side will not ease struggle, it will facilitate
it. On an average day in the country we are not sides, we are not parties, we
are human beings, and we are all just trying to do our best to get by.
Why Ignore the Red Flags?
November 1, 2016
Have you ever dated a guy who seemed great except for "X"? Have you ever made huge sacrifices for someone who just wasn't reciprocating? Have you ever dated a guy despite what your friends and family think? It's ok, we all have.
Homebody Halloween
October 29, 2016
8 Things I Wish I Knew In College
October 15, 2016
We're told that our college years will be the best years of our life. For some, this may be true, but it's not without its struggles. I graduated 5 months ago, and lately people have been asking me for advice on how to do well in college, and I find that most of the things I tell them are things I wish I had known myself. A little background on me: I went to a medium-sized, liberal arts school in a large city that was far from home. So while my experiences may have been different from others, I believe that there are certain experiences that all college kids go through. This post is mainly geared towards those experiences and to help anyone looking for a bit of advice in how to deal with the struggle that is college.
Unemployed Chic
October 13, 2016
We All Eat Fast Food Sometimes
Within in the first couple weeks of my big move to New York,
I have learned a few things. Cheap Chinese food isn’t a bargain; it’s a death
sentence. Your neighbors don’t like you walking across your apartment in tap
shoes. When in Times Square, elbows can be used as weapons. Never make eye
contact on the subway. All of these lessons are important and guarantee
survival in the city, but the most important lesson thus far is the one that
everyone tries to keep secret: no one knows what they are doing.
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